14 of the Most Outrageous Things Our Followers Have Ever Heard at an IEP Meeting

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Meetings to discuss a child’s individual education plan, or IEP, have a bad reputation. And it’s not completely unfounded; IEP meetings can bring a lot of frustration to parents who are trying their best to advocate for their child and ensure they get the support and education they need to succeed.

So we asked some of our Facebook followers to tell us the craziest thing they’ve ever heard at an IEP meeting. And some of the responses were, well, quite colorful, indeed.

However, it should be noted that not all IEP experiences are negative. In fact, we had several users tell us that they’ve had great experiences with IEPs, as well as fantastic teachers expressing sympathy and sadness to parents with IEP horror stories. We don’t want to ignore these positive experiences, so we’re going to include one bonus story at the very end. Be sure to stick around for it!

(Note: Some responses have been edited for grammar.)

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Photo: Adobe Stock/madhourse

14. Never Tell a Parent Never!

“‘Your daughter will likely never speak, never sign & never have any meaningful communication.’ I pulled her out of the school district immediately that day, put her in a full-time ABA center 3 days later & 3 years later she was talking, potty trained & doing well!! NEVER TELL A PARENT NEVER!!!!” —Melissa W.S.

13. “There Are No Bubbles”

“Last year when my son was a junior in high school, his 76-year-old general education history teacher displayed her ignorance and insensitivity in front of the entire IEP team, and made it perfectly clear she had not read or implemented his IEP in the classroom. She walked into the meeting late, did not introduce herself and proceeded to say with attitude that in her class ‘there are no bubbles’ multiple times. She continued to berate my son for his lack of writing skills and his missing writing assignments, but had she read the IEP or consulted with his case manager, she would have known that writing is his only weakness. Our advocate, a school psychologist for a neighboring school district set her straight by pointing out his cumulative 3.7 GPA and the fact that SAI English is the only SPED class he has ever needed since middle school. She left the meeting furious, we filed a 5 page complaint letter with the district, and had our son removed from her classroom by the end of the week.” —Yvonne V.K.

Photo: Adobe Stock/ricardoferrando

Photo: Adobe Stock/ricardoferrando

12. Corporal Punishment

“‘Maybe if you would let us punish her she would learn to be less autistic.’ That was said after they wrote my daughter up on a referral and called for permission to use corporal punishment. Oh, and ‘I can’t promise you she will not be in Augusta when you come to pick her up this afternoon, but I can promise you we will try our best, and that’s all we can do.’ This was said about my daughter on the first day of kindergarten, because she is a known wanderer. Augusta is a town over 20 miles away.” —Tammy D.

See more outrageous stories on the next page!

A. Stout received a Bachelor of Arts in Writing through Grand Valley State University, graduating Magna Cum Laude in 2015. In addition to being a passionate autism advocate, she is a member of various fandoms, a study abroad alumna, and an animal lover. She dreams of publishing novels and traveling all over the world someday.
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